I used to work with the notion of gratitude… feeling that if I focused on this, things would somehow be better. What I then realised was that being grateful for both good and bad experiences wasn’t necessary. It’s a bit like being positive when all around is falling apart!
I have taught Positive Thinking for about ten years now and I still see its worth today. But like gratitude, sometimes we just have to put up our hands and acknowledge that we feel c**p… because we do. And most times, even if we try to be positive or grateful we end up suppressing the truth of our feelings.
When we are being grateful, we are making a judgement that something is either good or bad. If we could let go of the judgement and see it as just ‘experience’, then we will know freedom from suffering.
I’ve spent sixteen years plus trying to manifest my desires and have just realised that in all the 30-odd years prior to this, I never once used the word ‘manifest’.
The books I read, written by authors from other countries, all use this word. Because I was interested in self-development, I also used this word. But the truth is, unconsciously, it never did sit well with me and I would usually end up disappointed if what I wanted didn’t materialise.
I have a copy of ‘The Secret’. I have read many books on “the law of attraction”. I have even taught positive thinking and using visualisation to create your dream. But, not until yesterday did I realise that the reason I could not ‘manifest’ was not because I didn’t believe, in the normal sense, or not even because I could not see it or feel it but because – purely and simply – I never had an innate sense of the word ‘manifest’!
Now, when I supplement it with a word that I do know (a word I have used throughout my life), I can see how I have achieved the things I set out to, and from that can achieve the thing I next aim to. Simple! All I have to do is use the word I know, the word I expereince the world with. That word is ‘create’.
I create all that I have. I create all that I am. I create all that I want. This is my word. This is my language. From this, I make sense of my world.
Sixteen years seems a long time to be studying something before I got to this understanding. I wonder what other things I have spent so much time on in life before I could see?
Before you take one more step, check in with yourself. Check in to your real language, you real thoughts and your real beliefs. After all, if we have not truly experienced something for ourselves, can we actually say that we ‘know’ it? Can we really resonate with it?
What are you following that somewhere inside of you does not feel real, does not feel authentic and does not feel YOU?